Subtle Gifts
I have enjoyed my brief opportunity to mother my mother this week. We, me and the dogs, that is, are heading home tomorrow as long as the weather allows it. Mom's doing OK, but needs to be in slo-mo for several more days. Janine will be taking over for me.
One of the things I have really appreciated this week was having someone with whom to talk matter-of-factly about death. Both of us have felt its hot breath on the back of our necks this year. We have each said "Whoa, Nellie!" and looked around to see what could be done in the time remaining, given that the time remaining is anybody's guess, but probably less than you'd think. We both know there are people who get a panicked look when you allude to the real fact that life is terminal for everybody. We understand that. It's not an easy truth. It's a fearful thing. And like all fearful things, it loses its power to intimidate every minute that you can lay it out in front of you and talk about it like next week's groceries with someone who is brave -- like my mom.
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I am so grateful for having a little bit of a holiday with you Lynda. In fact, one of the up sides of this medical problem is having each of my daughters to myself for some quality time. Thanks to Claire for sparing her Tiger for a visit. Both her and Belle are so comforting.
Sorry to be a detour in your busy lives but I must say selfishly I have enjoyed that aspect.
God Bless all of your.
Love, Mum
Posted by: Mum | November 26, 2004 08:59 AM
Very nicely said Lynda. I can't say that I could provide that same type of support as all I can think is I can't bear the thought of losing you both. But I'm glad that you both have each other for that and I'm so glad that I have you as a sister. I love you. xo Tracy
p.s. let me know next time you are going to the Tarragon. I would love to see a play sometime. Also did you hear, Wicked is coming in March?
Posted by: Tracy | November 30, 2004 11:26 AM